BEWARE OF MATE POACHING: WHO'S GOT THEIR EYE ON YOUR PARTNER?

Beware of mate poaching: who's got their eye on your partner?

When you're in a relationship, people may still try to seduce you even though they know you're already in a committed couple. Whether with subtle flirtation or direct advances, this need to attract people who are already taken has a name, mate poaching.

Mate poaching involves flirting with or making direct advances towards people who are already in a relationship.

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Have you ever received advances from someone, even after making it clear that you're in a relationship? If so, then you may have experienced an attempt at mate poaching. Mate poaching is the practice of seducing people who are already in a committed relationship. This can take many forms, from flirting to emotional manipulation to direct advances designed to damage or undermine an existing relationship.

To achieve their goals, mate poachers "often exploit perceived vulnerabilities or dissatisfaction within the target's relationship to increase their chances of success," explainsKevin Bennett, professor of social-personality psychology, in an article forPsychology Today. But why do they behave this way? According to the expert, these people "may experience heightened arousal and excitement from pursuing individuals who are already in a committed relationship, driven by factors such as novelty-seeking behavior and ego validation." What's more, mate poachers can share certain character traits, the professor explains, tending to be "high in narcissism, unfaithful, extraverted, and open to new experiences."

According to some studies, this behavior appears to be quite common in today's society. It's even the basis on which many couples were formed. In fact, a USstudy, published in 2004 in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, conducted in 53 different countries and involving 17,000 individuals, reports that 10-15% of current relationships are the result of successful mate poaching by one of the two partners.

However, the success of this tactic appears to depend on the couple's stage of commitment. Another study, published in 2017 in the journalPersonality and Individual Differences, shows that the higher the level of commitment, the less likely couples are to give in to temptation. For example, married or cohabiting couples are less likely to leave their partner for someone else.

Mate poaching is not without consequences. For those involved, it can lead to"emotional distress, guilt, and reputational damage, particularly if the behavior is discovered or condemned by peers," explains Kevin Bennett. Experiencing this type of behavior can also lead to a loss of trust and commitment in existing relationships, leading to a deterioration of the relationship, or even a break-up. That's why it's essential to distance yourself from mate poachers, in order to protect your relationship.

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